Tuesday, August 14, 2007

Do you pay for sex ? Read this.

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It is well known that the middle-income sex market in KL is very mobile, innovative & hidden. The girls are viewed & transported in cars. Venues of viewing & actual sex acts move frequently & are coordinated by 'agents' who handle the logistics of each transaction. Each agent has access to 15-20 girls. Charges ranges from Rm150 - to RM500 depending on the "quality" and nationality. The trade is hidden from public view as sex acts take place in venues that include bars, clubs, massage parlours, hotels & apartments. An increasing number of sex workers (full time & part time) operate in this lucrative middle-income range.
However, there is a recent report in the NST (see below) on the lives of sex workers at the lower economic end of the market and the serious threats of STDs to their customers.

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Most sex workers have a story of woe to tell about why they entered the oldest profession in the world. Many are unable to leave due to the stigma of the ‘job’ with some forced to stay after being infected with HIV.
NISHA SABANAYAGAM and MINDERJEET KAUR take a look at the sad lives of Malaysian prostitutes.IT is a no-win situation for local sex workers.

Not only do they have to contend with the threat of HIV infection, the pain of being ostracised by family and the fact that they have to sell their bodies to earn a living, but today, there is also a far greater challenge in terms of competition from Chinese, Taiwanese and Indonesians who use their looks to attract clients and charge less to keep them.

This has led to people like Minah (not her real name) being forced to charge as little as RM15 to RM20 per customer when the rate was usually between RM20 and RM40 10 years ago.

Minah, who has been in the trade for 10 years, said she had to work longer hours to make the same amount of money she did earlier.
"Those days, we worked for two to four hours. And we were happy. We got our day’s income.

"Now, we have to work double the hours and charge a lot less."

Minah said many men preferred sex workers from China and Taiwan who were also younger and better groomed.

"Men say they are also polite and treat their clients like kings," she said.

Minah is a perfect example of a Malaysian sex worker — a school dropout driven to the streets by poverty.

"Those on the streets are uneducated, school dropouts and illiterate. We have encounters with the worst type of men," she said.

Some are exploited by their boyfriends and willingly "sell" their bodies every night to raise money to support the latter’s drug habit or to support their own.

"I try not to rationalise the things we do for a living. I try to stay high on drugs as much as I can so that my senses stay numb," she said.

Due to that, dadah abuse is also high among sex workers.

The New Straits Times visited a small shoplot that houses some of the sex workers in the Chow Kit area.

There were between 20 and 30 "off-duty" sex workers resting there.

Some of them had just returned from "work" while others were resting for the night ahead.

Most had scars due to abuse by clients, boyfriends or others linked to the profession.

The majority of sex workers were not attractive and looked haggard because of the hours they kept.

Another sex worker was eating lunch but had difficulty chewing her food as she had lost most of her teeth due to years of dadah abuse.

Most of them were at first reluctant to speak to reporters, especially on their background and why they got into the trade.

They said society looked at them as "pariah" who were not worthy of respect.

Because of a lack of self-esteem, the women also felt useless.

Many did not even try to leave the industry as they believed they could not do anything else.

"But believe me, no one wants to do what we are doing. We are doing it for a living.

"We do not know what else to do. This is the only thing we know," said Alice (not her real name).

Mary (not her real name), another sex worker at the centre, said most of them took drugs to forget their misery.

"Some of us service up to 60 men a night during weekends. To forget our sorrow, we take drugs."

She added that most of them continued in the trade until they were too old to work.

"Most of us have children due to unprotected sex. There are a lot of social problems as the children are either left with our parents or left to beg on the streets."

Mary hopes the government will create greater awareness about the importance of safe sex.

"It will definitely save a lot of lives," she said.


How other countries are coping with the spread of HIV/AIDS

Thailand

The government launched a "100 per cent condom programme" in the mid-1990s. The focus was to ensure that sex workers practised safe sex. The use of condoms in "commercial" sex has jumped to 90 per cent. The programme instructs sex workers to refuse intercourse without condoms, monitoring health clinic statistics to locate brothels that allowed sex without protection.

Singapore

Soon after the first reported case of AIDS, the government set up an action plan to protect and prevent the spread of HIV and AIDS among sex workers.


Rina's Story

'I tell them I have HIV and that they should wear a condom, but they refuse.'

RINA (not her real name) delivers a death sentence every night to at least five men.

This translates into an average of 35 men a week or 140 men a month who may contract the deadly disease because they refused to use condoms.
In a year, this adds up to 1,700 men, who could be walking time bombs, unaware or uncaring that they are infected.

Add to the equation is the fact that Rina was infected at 15 and has been a sex worker for the past 21 years.

Work in Health Ministry figures that 13.6 per cent of the HIV-positive cases diagnosed in Malaysia are through heterosexual transmission, which includes sex workers infecting their clients or vice versa, boyfriends infecting girlfriends, and husbands infecting wives.
Do the math.

In short, almost everyone is a potential victim.
Despite the fact that Rina carries condoms with her all the time, she says half of her customers refuse to use them.

"I tell them I have HIV and that they should wear a condom, but they refuse.
"I tell them the disease is infectious, but still they refuse safe sex," she said.

The men insist that the condoms are too "uncomfortable".
A former sex worker, Aini (not her real name) said that more sex workers were carrying condoms these days but clients still choose not to use them.

"If one sex worker insists on using a condom, the client will move on until they find one willing to have sex without protection," she said.
Minah (not her real name), another sex worker, agreed.

She said only 20 per cent of her clients chose to wear condoms. If she refused unsafe sex, they would look for someone who agreed.
Minah services about 20 men on weekdays, the number increasing to 60 on weekends.
It is not surprising then that the number of HIV cases in the country has risen from 73,429 in June last year to about 80,000 cases today.
"We are facing a crisis," said Pink Triangle chairman Hisham Hussein.
The estimated infection rate daily is between 18 and 20 people.

Hisham said it was high time that the existence of sex workers was acknowledged and regulated.

"You cannot stop people from having sex with sex workers. If you close brothels, sex workers will go underground," he said. By acknowledging the fact that brothels exist and knowing where they operate, the government can go to the ground and educate sex workers, clients and the public about HIV/AIDS, he said.

This has been done in Thailand and Singapore.
Health Ministry officials in Thailand distribute condoms to sex workers at brothels.

"At the end of the day, they check rubbish bins to see if there are used condoms. This ensures that the condoms are being used," said Hisham.
"All sex workers should be made to use condoms."

Hisham said there was a need for a concerted effort between the Health Ministry, the police, non-governmental organisations and sex workers to prevent the spread of the disease.

The threat of HIV is made worse in Asia, with the trend of men, mainly Malays and Indians, being closet bisexuals.
"They have unprotected sex with other men and then they go home and have unprotected sex with their wives."

Southeast Asia is the hottest region for HIV/AIDS infection in the world after the sub-Saharan countries in Africa.

HIV is largely transmitted by exposure to bodily fluids containing the virus through unprotected sexual contact, blood transfusions, re-use of contaminated needles and syringes and from mother to child during childbirth.

Mary's Story

'Their wives don’t treat them well. So their next choice is to pay someone for sex.'

MARY (not her real name) was 17 when she was raped by her boyfriend.
After that, she had no option but to stay with him. She bore him five children — all out of wedlock.

But the large family led to her boyfriend pushing her into prostitution to support him and the children.

Coming from a poor family and a Form Three dropout, she became a sex worker at 26 after her boyfriend introduced her to a pimp in the Chow Kit area.

"He told me to charge RM20 per customer. He took half my earnings," says the veteran sex worker, now in her 40s.
She usually waits for customers in the back alleys of the Chow Kit area between the early hours of the evening and midnight.
On weekdays, she attends to about 20 men and up to 60 on weekends.
Her price ranged from RM15 to RM30 per client, most of whom are Bangladeshis and Indonesians, who return home once every year or two.
She also gets professionals, including doctors and lawyers, and others down the social ladder like contract workers and mechanics.

She said most refused to use condoms despite knowing the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases.
"I tell them to use condoms. But they refuse. If I insist on condoms, they will go to other sex workers," she said.
After more than 10 years in the business and serving thousands, Mary is grateful that she is still free of HIV.

"About 80 per cent of my clients are married. I sometimes have a small chat with them on why they come to sex workers.

"They tell me their wives don’t treat them well. So their next choice is to pay someone for sex without having to dig deep into their pockets."
Mary has also entertained the newly-married who were unhappy with their wife’s "performance" on their first night.

"They are influenced by what they see in pornographic movies and want to try out some of the methods on us.
"Most of us try to fulfil their desires.

"If we do not follow their instructions, we will be physically abused," said Mary, who is now married to a former customer.

Her husband, a cleaner, has stopped visiting other prostitutes after marriage. However, he allows her to continue "working".
"We are happily married now."

She said most prostitutes did not like doing what they did but were forced into the trade by circumstances.
"Most of us are from broken homes with poverty driving us to the streets."

Lily's story

'How else am I going to make a living doing anything else? Nobody will hire a sick woman.'

LILY (not her real name) is the unlikely sex worker.
She is skinny with protruding joints, crooked and rotten teeth, and a limp in one leg.
Her wrinkled face tells a story of long hours and insufficient rest. Lily has asthma, a lung infection and an apparent mental disability.
"Otak saya ini slow sikit (my brain is a bit slow)," she said.
Lily has been a sex worker for 20 years, attending to five men a day on average.

Her journey into the world of prostitution began when, as a teenager, she was raped by her father.
At 15, she dropped out of school to get married to a youth she met while loitering behind Central Market.

He was a dadah addict with no money and who slept under a cardboard shelter in a Chinese temple in the city.
One month into marriage, Lily decided to leave him after she realised that she was getting nowhere with him.

Unfortunately, it was a little too late — he had infected her with HIV.
Her family refused to take her back, and with nowhere else to go and needing to survive, she became a sex worker in the Chow Kit area.
Her ex-husband is now dead, a victim of the disease.

But she does not harbour any anger towards him for giving her the disease.
Apparently, being HIV positive is common in her family. An uncle and a couple of cousins have the problem.
"It’s nothing new," she said with studied nonchalance, betraying the fact that she knew the disease would take her to an early grave.

Having been counselled by NGOs about sexually transmitted diseases, Lily carries condoms with her wherever she goes, even though her clients do not always use them.
When asked if she realised what she was doing, she shrugs hopelessly.
When asked why she did not refuse to attend to men who did not want to use condoms, she replied: "How am I going to find money to eat if they refuse?"

She cannot comprehend the notion that she has other options of making a living.
"How else am I going to make a living doing anything else? Nobody will hire a sick woman," she said.
Lily carries scars from self-inflicted wounds from her wrist to her elbow on both arms.

"Dengan pisau kecil 20 sen tu (I did it with the 20 sen penknife)," she said.
When asked why, she shrugged and said she wanted to feel pain after being numbed by her "job".

NST

Monday, August 13, 2007

Clubbing Scene Kuala Lumpur

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Absolute Chemistry
3 Jalan Telawi 2, Bangsar Baru, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2282 7242
Type: Bar, Dance Club, Genre: House


Aloha Club
http://www.alohakl.com/
924 Jalan PRamlee, 50450 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2711 7266, 03 2711 7277
Type: Dance Club, Genre: Retro


Asian Heritage Row, Jalan Doraisamy
Sheraton Imperial Hotel, Bar Savanh, CoChine, Vanilla Box, The Wine Room, Kristao, Senja Bistro, The Rupee Room, Bar Blonde, Bar Club & Ivy Bar, Mojo, The Loft, Tokyo Tei, Ye Chine, Cynna, Palacio, Bed, Atrium, Mesquite 52, Buharry, Maison, Heritage Mansion
http://www.asianheritagerow.com/
Jalan Doraisamy, 50300 Kuala Lumpur


Atrium
http://www.atrium.com.my/
Asian Heritage Row, 21 Jalan Doraisamy, 50300 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2694 1318, Fax: 03 2694 8318
Type: Dance Club, Genre: Mixed


Attic, The
http://www.attickl.com/
61-2 Jalan Bangkung, Bukit Bandaraya, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2093 8842
Type: Diner Bar, Genre: Live Music


Backyard Pub & Grill
http://www.backyardpub.com/
28 Jalan Sri Hartamas 8, 50480 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 6201 0318, Fax: 03 6203 1031
Type: Pub, Genre: Live Music


Bangsar Avenue - C18
18 Jalan Liku, Off Jalan Riong, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2282 2018, Fax: 03 2287 1028
Type: Fun Pub, Karaoke, Restaurant Bistro, Genre: Mixed


Barcode
113 Block E Phileo Damansara 1, 46350 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7660 1606
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Jazz, Mixed


Bar Amber
http://baramber.com/
14 Jln 24/70A, Desa Sri Hartamas, 50480 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 6201 5534
Type: Dance Bar, Genre: House


Bar Blonde
http://www.barblonde.com.my/
50 Jalan Doraisamy, 50300 Kuala Lumpur (Asian Heritage Row, corner of Sultan Ismail - Sheraton Imperial Hotel)
Tel: 03 2691 1088
Type: Fun Bar, Genre: Contemporary, Jazz


Bar Club & The Ivy
Asian Heritage Row, 48 Jalan Doraisamy, 50300 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2693 2260
Type: Dance Club, Genre: Contemporary


Bar Flam
http://www.flams.com/
16 Jalan Telawi, Bangsar Baru, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2284 6721 Fax: 03 2287 3007
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Mixed


Bar Ibiza
924 Jalan P Ramlee, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2713 2333
Type: Dance Club, Genre: R&B, House


Bar Med
PT 4512, Jalan 23/70A, Desa Sri Hartamas, 50480 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 6201 3778
Type: Dance Bar, Genre: House


Bar Savanh - CoChine
Asian Heritage Row, Jalan Doraisamy, 50300 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2697 1180
Type: Dance Club, Restaurant, Genre: House, R&B


Bar Uno
924 & 926 Jalan P Ramlee, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2713 2333
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Mix


Beach Club
97 Jalan P Ramlee, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2166 9919
Type: Fun Pub, Dance Club, Genre: Retro, Contemporary


Bilique
34 & 36A, Jalan Telawi, Bangsar Baru, Bangsar, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2287 3436
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House


Bintang Walk
http://www.bintangwalk.com/


Bliss
12 Jalan Sultan Ismail, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel 03 2145 9198
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House


Blue Planet
1st Floor, Rohas Perkasa, Jalan Perak, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2711 3000
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House


Bojangles
Jalan 22A/70A, Desa Sri Hartamas, 50480 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 6203 3353
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Retro


Bond Martini Bar
Lobby Avenue K, 156 Jalan Ampang, Kuala Lumpur
http://www.bond-lounge.com/
Tel: 03 2161 2888, Fax: 03 2161 4888
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House


Borneo Baruk Club - BBC
http://www.bbc.net.my/
1 Jalan Kia Peng, 50450 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2148 0015
Type: Fun Pub with Dining, Genre: Live Band, Retro


Brewball - Pool Club & Pub
http://www.piazza.com.my/brewball.htm
B.8.8, Megan Phileo Promenade, 189 Jalan Tun Razak, 50400 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 460 7008 Fax: 03 460 3313
Type: Bar & Pool Club, Genre: Background, Mixed



Cafe Flam
OB2-G-U1 & U2, Oasis Blvd. Sunway Pyramid, 3 Jln. PJS11/15, Bdr. Sunway , PJ. T: 7492 0068
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Mix


Carnegies
http://www.carnegies.net/
Ground Floor, Central Plaza, 34 Jalan Sultan Ismail, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2141 7888, Fax: 03 2141 5888
Type: Fun Pub, Bistro, Genre: Retro


Castle, The (formerly The Roof)
2 Jalan Telawi 4, Bangsar Baru, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2284 9895
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Mix


Centro
G-5 & OD-1, Lot 77, Sooka Sentral, KL Sentral, 50470 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2785 1811
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Mix


Chakrawatty
14 Lower Ground Floor, Kompleks Wilayah, Jalan Dang Wangi, 50100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2692 5742
Type: Fun Pub & Live Band, Genre: Indian, Bollywood, Tamil Rock


Cherry Blossom KTV Lounge
http://www.cherryblossom.com.my/
Basement, Sun Kompleks, Off Jalan Bukit Bintang, 55100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2144 4895, Fax: 03 2144 4892
Type: Night Club, Genre: Karaoke


Club 11:15 - Pharmacy
11 & 15 Jalan Telawi 2, Bangsar Baru, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2284 1310
Type: Bistro, Dance Bar, Genre: R&B, House


Club De Macau
Lower ground floor, Renaissance Hotel, Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2163 2632
Type: GRO Lounge, Genre: Karaoke


Club De Vegas
http://www.vegas.com.my/
3 Jalan Imbi, 55100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2141 3888, Fax: 03 2145 3888
Type: GRO Lounge, Genre: Karaoke


CoCo Club
7th Floor Menara MAA, 12 Jalan Dewan Bahasa, 50460 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 9222 1418
Type: Karaoke, Genre: Mixed


Conlay Club
http://www.conlayclub.com.my/
6 Jalan Conlay, Off Jalan Raja Chulan, 50450 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2144 3198, Fax: 03 2144 6182
Type: Fun Pub, Karaoke, Slots, Genre: Retro


Cotton Club, The
G-11, Maju Junction Mall, 1001 Jalan Sultan Isamil, Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2772 8588
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House (no more jazz)


Cream
Lower Lobby, Renaissance Hotel, Jalan Sultan Ismail, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2168 8680, Fax: 03 2168 8881
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House


Cynna
Jalan Doraisamy, 50300 Kuala Lumpur (Asian Heritage Row)
Tel: 03 2694 2888
Type: Lounge Club, Genre: House


Delaney's KL
Parkroyal Hotel, Lower Ground Floor, Jalan Sultan Ismail, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2141 5195
Type: Irish-Themed Fun Pub, Genre: Mixed


Deluxe Nite Club
Rooftop, Ampang Park Shopping Centre, Jalan Ampang, 50450 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2162 1399
Type: GRO Lounge, Genre: Karaoke


Deutches Bierhaus
Courtyard, Plaza Mont Kiara, Jalan 1/70C, Mont' Kiara, 50480 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 6201 3268
Type: Pub & German Grub, Genre: Mixed


Dinty's
34 Jalan Telawi 2 Bangsar Baru, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2284 1272
Type: Pub, Restaurant, Genre: Mixed


Disco, The
1st Floor, 304, Central Market Annexe, Jalan Hang Kasturi, 50050 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2026 5039
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House


Divino The Wine Bistro
One Bangsar, Jalan Ara, Bangsar Baru, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2287 9968
Type: Wine Bar, Genre: Light & Easy


Espanda Club (formerly Emporium Disco)
http://www.espandaclub.com/
97 Jalan Sultan Ismail, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2142 6666
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House


Finnegan's Irish Pubs
http://www.finneganspubs.com/
70 Jalan 27/70A, Desa Sri Hartamas, 50480 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2300 0538 Fax: 03 2300 0528


Finnegan's Irish Pubs
6 Jalan Telawi Lima, Bangsar Baru, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
http://www.finneganspubs.com/
Tel: 03 2284 9024


Finnegan's Irish Pubs
http://www.finneganspubs.com/
51 Jalan Sultan Ismail, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2145 1930
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Mixed


Frangipani Bar
25 Changkat Bukit Bintang, 50200 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2144 3001
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Mixed


Grand Modesto's
http://www.modestos.com.my/
924 & 926 Jalan P Ramlee, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2713 2333
Type: Fun Pub & Restaurant, Genre: R&B


Hard Rock Cafe Kuala Lumpur
http://www.hardrock.com/locations/cafes/cafesasp?lc=KUAL
Ground Floor, Wisma Concorde, Jalan Sultan Ismail, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2715 5555
Type: Fun Pub, Live Band & Restaurant, Genre: Dance, Rock


Heineken Champions Planet
http://www.championsplanet.com.my/


Heritage Mansion
8-26 Jalan Kamunting, 50300 Kuala Lumpur (Adjacent to Asian Heritage Row)
Tel: 03 2694 6460
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House


Kelab Westcourt
Wisma Westcourt, Lot G1-G3, 16 Jalan Klang Lama, 58000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 7987 3520, Fax: 03 7987 3593
Type: Fun Pub, Karaoke Rooms, Genre: Retro


Laundry Bar
http://www.laundrybar.net/
Corner of The Curve, Grd Flr, 6 Jln PJU 7/3, Mutiara Damansara, 47800 Petaling Jaya
Type: Fun Pub, Bistro, Genre: Mixed, Live Acts


Liquid Bar - The Disco
http://www.liquidbar.com.my/
Mezzanine 2-04, Central Market Annexe, Jalan Hang Kasturi, 50050 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2078 5909, Fax: 03 2070 0706
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House


Loft, The
Asian Heritage Row, Jalan Doraisamy, 50300 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2691 5668
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House, R&B


Luna Bar
Level 34, Pacific Regency Hotel Apartments
Menara Pan Global, Jalan Punchak, off Jalan P Ramlee, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2026 2211
Type: Poolside Bar, Genre: Jazz


M Bar
http://www.piazza.com.my/mbar.htm
B.8.8, Megan Phileo Promenade, 189 Jalan Tun Razak, 50400 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 460 7008, Fax: 03 460 3313
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Retro, MIxed


Maison
http://www.maison.com.my/
8 Jalan Yap Ah Shak, 50300 Kuala Lumpur (next to Asian Heritage Row)
Tel: 03 2698 3328, Fax: 03 2692 1328
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House, Contemporary


Matrix Pool & Pub
http://www.matrixpool.com.my/
109 - 112, Block E, 9, Phileo Damansara 1, Jln 16/1, 46350 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7665 3890, 03 7665 3893 E-mail: enquiry@matrixpool.com.my
Type: Bar, Outdoor Karaoke & Pool Club, Genre: Background, Mixed


Mojo Restaurant & Bar
42, Jalan Doraisamy, 50300 Kuala Lumpur (Asian Heritage Row, corner of Sultan Ismail - Sheraton Imperial Hotel)
Tel: 03 2697 7999, Fax: 03 2697 7998
Type: Fun Bar & Bistro, Genre: Contemporary


Monkey Bar
Legend Hotel, 100 Jalan Putra, Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 4042 9888
Type: Fun Bar & Live Band, Genre: Contemporary


Nihonkan Club
http://www.nihonkanclub.com.my/
347 Jalan Ampang, 50450 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 4251 3019, Fax: 03 4256 2334
Type: Fun Pub, Live Band Karaoke, Slots, Genre: Retro


No Black Tie
17 Jalan Mesui, 50200 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2142 3737
Type: Restaurant Bar, Live Bands, Genre: Jazz


Nouvo & Sangria Bar
http://www.nouvoclub.com/
16 Jalan P Ramlee, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2161 6666
Type: Dance Club & Fun Bar, Genre: House (Nouvo), Mixed (Sangria)


Orange, The
22-1 Jalan 24/70A, Desa Sri Hartamas, 50480 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2300 8385
Type: Club & Restaurant , Genre: R&B, Jazz


Orange Club (closed)
1 Jalan Kia Peng, Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2141 4929
Type: Dance Club, Genre: R&B


Palm Beach Bistro & Fun Pub - Jupiter Club
239 Jalan Bukit Bintang, Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2142 7228
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Retro, Live Band


Passion - Poppy
18-3 Jalan P Ramlee, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2141 8888
Type: Dance Club, Genre: R&B, House


Planet Hollywood Kuala Lumpur
http://www.planethollywood.com/restaurants/kualalumpurs.htm
G003, KL Plaza, 179 Jalan Bukit Bintang, 55100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 244 6602, Fax: 03 244 6632
Type: Fun Pub, Live Band & Restaurant, Genre: Dance, Rock


Piazza, The
http://www.piazza.com.my/
B88, Megan Phileo Promenade, 189 Jalan Tun Razak, 50400 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 460 7008 Fax: 03 460 3313
Type: Bar, Genre: Mixed


Q Bar
K6 - K9 Sunway Pyramid, 3 Jalan. PJS 11/15, Bandar Sunway, Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7491 3668
Type: Dance Bar , Genre: House


Red Box Karaoke
http://www.redbox.com.my/
Basement 1, Plaza Low Yat, Off Jalan Bukit Bintang, 55100 Kuala Lumpur
(various other outlets - see website for listings)
Tel: 03 2710 1883, Fax: 03 2710 9383
Type: Karaoke Rooms, Genre: Mixed


Reggae Bar
158 Jalan Tun HS Lee, Kuala Lumpur (around the corner of Petaling Street)
Type: Backpackers' Fun Pub, Genre: Reggae, Rock


Ritz Bistro & Fun Pub - Spice Garden
G-1, Jaya Square, 7343 Jalan SS17/2, 47500 Subang Jaya, Selangor
Tel: 03 5637 8400, Fax: 03 5637 8587
Type: Bistro Restaurant, Genre: Light


Ronnie Q
32 Jalan Telawi 2, Bangsar Baru, Bangsar, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2282 0722
Type: Pub, Genre: Retro, Mixed


Rum Jungle
1 Jalan Pinang (Corner of Jalan P Ramlee & Jalan Pinang), Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2148 0282
Type: Dance Pub, Genre: Contemporary, Mixed


Rupee Room, The (formerly That Indian Thing Restaurant)
Asian Heritage Row, 52 Jalan Doraisamy, 50300 Kulala Lumpur
Tel: 03 4142 4044, Fax: 03 4142 2717
Type: Indian Dance Club, Genre: Bollywood, Punjabi


Rush (formerly Viva Dance Club)
Ballroom Level, Eastin Hotel, 13 Jalan 16/11, Jln Damansara, 46350 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7665 5123
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House, R&B


Ruums
http://www.ruumsclub.com/
1st & 2nd Floor, Bangunan Life Centre, Jalan Sultan Ismail, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2162 8163, Fax: 03 2162 8162
Type: Bar & Club, Genre: House, R&B, Hip-Hop, Retro


Sanctuary, The - Bar Cacoon, Sutra, Papillon, The Ice Bar
Lot 151 & 151A, The Curve, 6 Jalan PJU 7/3, Mutiara Damansara, 47800 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7710 5033, Fax: 03 7710 5032
Type: Bar & Club, Genre: Mixed


Songbird KTV
http://www.songbirdstar.com.my/
Lot 205, 2nd Floor Podium Block, Plaza Berjaya, 12 Jalan Imbi, 55100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2145 3262, Fax: 03 2148 0177
Type: Karaoke Rooms, Genre: Mixed


Star KTV
http://www.songbirdstar.com.my/
3rd Floor, Bangsar Shopping Centre Bangsar, 59000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 284 4482, Fax: 03 289 9284
Type: Karaoke Rooms, Genre: Mixed


Star KTV
http://www.songbirdstar.com.my/
1st Floor, Life Centre Jalan Sultan Ismail, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2162 6263, Fax: 03 2162 7262
Type: Karaoke Rooms, Genre: Mixed


Sugar Club
Lower Lobby, Crowne Plaza Mutiara, Jalan Sultan Ismail, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2143 0020
Type: Disco, Genre: Retro


Superstar Night Club
Lot 4.01-4.02, 4th Floor, KL Plaza, Jalan Bukit Bintang, 55100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2143 2300, Fax: 03 2143 4288
Type: GRO Lounge, Genre: Karaoke


Tapas Bistro
Micasa Hotel Apartments, 368B Jln Tun Razak, Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2161 8833
Type: Hotel Bar, Genre: Background


Talk, The
22 Jalan Telawi 3, Bangsar Baru, Bangsar, 59100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2284 3242
Type: Bistro & Sushi Bar, Genre: Background


Telawi Street Bistro
http://www.telawi.com.my/
1 Jalan Telawi 3, Bangsar Baru, 59000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2284 3168
Type: Bistro, Genre: Mixed


Thai Club
http://www.thaiclubkl.com.my/
Ground Floor, Wisma Tong Ah, 1 Jln Perak, 50450 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2163 8388
Type: Fun Pub & Live Bands, Genre: Retro, Rock


Titanium Super Dance Club
http://www.mxm.com.my/
101 Block A, Phileo Damansara 2, Off Jalan Damansara, 46350 Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7721 2868
Type: Dance Club with Dining, Genre: Dance, Contemporary


Titus (closed)
7 Jalan Balai Polis, 50000 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2070 8191
Type: Fun Pub & Live Bands, Genre: Blues, Rock


Top Room, The
http://thetoproom.blogspot.com/
7 Jalan Kia Peng, Kuala Lumpur
Type: Jazz Club, Live Music, Genre: Jazz


Twelve SI - Barfly, Bliss, Atmosphere, Gerai Cafe (closed)
http://www.twelvesi.com.my/
12 Jalan Sultan Ismail, 50250 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2145 9198, Fax: 03 2148 2477
Type: Dance Club (Atmosphere), Genre: House


Viper Room
D5, KL Plaza, 179 Jalan Bukit Bintang, 55100 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2148 8471
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House


Waikiki Bar
1st Floor (above DV8), Kelab Syabas, Lorong Sultan, Petaling Jaya
Tel: 03 7957 3040
Type: Fun Pub, Genre: Retro, Rock, Contemporary


Zeta Bar
5th Floor, Hilton KL, 3 Jalan Stesen Sentral, 50470 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2264 2264
Type: Live Music Bar, Genre: World, Eclectic


Zouk Club KL - Velvet Underground, Mambo Jambo
http://www.zoukclub.com.my/
113 Jalan Ampang, 50450 Kuala Lumpur
Tel: 03 2171 1997
Type: Dance Club, Genre: House


Anyone else I've miss out, guy ? Please update me on the latest by posting your comments. Thanks.





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Sunday, August 12, 2007

The Office (The Original British Edition)

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My Ratings: Very Good

Release Date: 2001

Lessons: There a lots of lessons you can learn from this series. You learn about the characters of different people you work with. You learn about a kind but incompetent boss. Everyone in the office have got nothing in common with each other except for sharing the same workplace for 8 hours everyday. Absolutely hilarious ! I've watched this series over 20 times and each time I watch it I still laugh.

When the Wernham Hogg paper merchants needed someone to come in and shape up their office, they found the man who definitely thinks he is the most capable candidate in David Brent (Ricky Gervais). Brent rules a tight ship, but at the same time tries to be every employee's best friend. Brent is the centerpiece for this brilliant satire of 9-5 office life. Camera crews follow Brent and his employees around in this British series that uses no laugh track, and doesn't need it. The razor sharp comedy will have audiences in stitches. When released in England, this wickedly funny series broke all sales records for non-film DVD releases.

Saturday, August 11, 2007

Sex Soup

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Guys, make your bullet perform like a torpedo.

















Eh, Im not talking about the war in Iraq. Im taking about love, not war. But it still has to do with the
"Coalition of the Willing". What I am talking about is what you need when you do your kung- fu in bed - "Crouching Trousers, Hidden Penis" activity.

Topedo Soup or "Sup torpedo" in Malay, is the answer to better kung fu (or silat, depending on your preference) performance. It is said to be more potent than Viagra, Tongkat Ali, Ginseng, Red Bull and "Guinness Stout campur telur".

Sup torpedo, if you've not guessed it already, has as its main ingredient a bull’s penis (a horse's,
in some places). The animal's penis is cooked with some Indian Muslim herbs.

Someone should actually patent this concoction as it is a truly Malaysian heritage. I can imagine the advertisement already... a big hot bowl of Sup Topedo...the words... Sup Topedo - Truly Malaysian, then in the background, a picture of the Petronas Twin towers standing tall...and then the words..."it takes two to make it true".

You think im talking cock ? read on...the Newspapers have also written about this. For those of you who want to know more about the bull's cock soup, I attached with this post a very polite article by NST about this Malaysian aphrodisiac.

For those of you who have tried this soup, please post your feedback in the comments section.

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Sup torpedo boosts men’s virility, so they say. It’s nevertheless a chewy proposition. SAM CHEONG writes.

“REAL men” drink Sup Torpedo. In a man’s world, there’s no question about it. But before you imagination runs berserk, let me clarify the fact that the torpedo in question is not an explosive ordnance but a bull’s sexual organ.

Long regarded as an aphrodisiac, many who consume it believed that it yields plenty of “power” for male virility.

How true is this claim? Well, only you can tell. This Indian Muslim dish is a variety of the well-known sup kambing.

Using the same spicy broth, bull’s penis is used instead of mutton. This particular soup dish is one of the most expensive hawker food ever to be found along sidewalks.

A single serving can cost up to RM15 a bowl. Up the ante with urat or tendons and tulang (bones).

The most expensive sup torpedo ever to be served was at RM55 a bowl. Now, this, believe it or not, is one of those rare occasions where a horse penis was used instead of the usual ones.

Okay, jokes aside, how does it taste? One thing is for sure, you don’t have to be a Fear Factor contestant to find out. The bull’s penis is crunchier than its tendons and well, if you’ve got used to it, you’d probably want more!

That said, the ultimate combination will be the sup torpedo campur grenade. Now, if I got your imagination running wild, this lethal concoction is a mixture of bull’s penis and goat’s testicles.

Cow spareparts aplenty, the only soup friendly mamak cooks have never come up with, is the sup Bom Atom or the bull’s testicles soup. I’ll leave that to your imagination.

Top five recommendations

- Kuala Lumpur — Sup Haji Abu at Jalan Doraisamy.

Many claim they are the real deal. Haji Abu’s sons who have remained humble all these years maintain a family recipe that puts them high on sup torpedo lovers’ list. Opens daily from 7pm-2am.

- Johor Baru — Daud Kambing Sup at the back alley of Jalan Wong Ah Fook.

Okay, for many who don’t know, this is a seedy area where the “Lai-Lai” girls (girlie barber joints) operate.

For the returning customer, this place has the most electrifying bull’s penis soup in the country.

- Malacca — Hawker centre beside City Bayview Hotel.

There is an Indian Muslim stall here that specialises in sup kambing and if you ask, sup torpedo is also on the menu. This one is a bit different because the owner will give you complimentary green chillies to go with a plate of hot rice when you order the soup.

- Selangor — Stall No. 3 at Jalan Selayang Baru near Batu Caves.

This is a makan place that is owned by a Malay couple and all the cow spareparts broth that you can imagine is served here. Highly recommended, is the sup bebola lembu or meatball soup.

- Penang — Head to Sup Hameed

Located at 49, Penang Road. To the islanders here, this place needs no introduction because sceptics are turned into believers when they savour the bull’s pride while slurping them down complemented by freshly-baked bread slices.

By SAM CHEONG

NST

Klang Valley's Top 10 Pick Up Joints

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I just met 2 friends of mine yesterday - Both are "real clubbers". I knew them since they were actively clubbing at the Hippodrome in London and Zouk in Singapore in the late 80s and early 90s. Now they are "Uncles" already lah, but they are still actively clubbing - some things never change.

I took the opportunity to casually ask them which are the top pick up joints in the Klang Valley these days. With much debate on which ones to include and which ones to eliminate, here is their top 10 pick up joints in the Klang Valley and commentaries.

Please note that the top 10 listed here are not necessarily in the order of superiority. No. They are all good clubs in their own way. They are listed according to my writing convenience only.
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Beach Club - Located in Jalan P Ramlee KL. Parking around this area is RM10 per entry during weekdays and RM15 during weekends. Beach Club used to be a very hot pick up joint with loads of locals, about 6 years ago. However in recent years it has become popular with Phillipina hookers and Caucasian expats. It is also a very popular tourist attraction. So guys, if you fail elsewhere, beach club will not fail you. The hookers charge between Rm100 -RM500 per night depending on your bargaining power, and how "in demand" they are that night. Basically, as night progresses, the prices get lower. The crowd is generally older; 30+ to 40+ years old.

Thai Club - Located just opposite the Beach Club. Apparently popular with the working class Chinese crowd. You can see Chinese pimps dancing with their girls, encouraging clubbers to join in. Desperate measures of soliciting for clients, I would think. The hookers here are from China, apparently. My friends also say that most local, regular girls go there in groups - with guys - presumably so the guys can buy them drinks. The crowd is generally about 20+ to 30+ years old.

Aloha - Located a walking distance from Thai Club and Beach club. A relatively new club. Apparently it shares the same owner with the Beach Club. A good place to pick up executives and students. The crowd is generally about 20+ to 30+ years old.

Poppy Bar - Located a walking distance from Beach Club and Thai Club. Popular with local college students and fresh graduates. The girls also go there in groups - with guys - so they dont have to pay for the drinks. Guys are such suckers. Most of the clubbers are young Chinese middle class college students. Most patrons are between the ages of 18 and late 20s.

Rum Jungle - Located opposite Poppy Bar. Apparently it shares the same owner with the Beach Club and Aloha. This place is popular with the Malay middle class and African "expats" (being politically correct). You can meet Malay GROs there if you go in after 12pm on weekdays . The Malay GRO go there after work or during their off days. This place is also popular with Caucasian tourists as well. The age range of patrons here are between 20+ to 30+.

Zouk Club and Velvet Underground - Located in Jalan Ampang KL. Popular with local college students. As usual, the girls also go there in groups - with guys - so they dont have to pay for the drinks. There are middle class Chinese groups and Malay groups. Typical clubbers here are between the ages of 18 and late 20s.

Zeta Bar -
Located in Hilton Kuala Lumpur. This is one of the more recent nightspots to open in KL. It is apparently modelled after its namesake in London and Sydney. This place is pretty upmarket. Frequented by Caucation expats, top local executives, businessmen, members of the Malaysian royalty, and occationally "Princesses from Chow Kit". The age group of patrons here are typically between the ages of 30 to 50.
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Bar Flam (Sunway) - Located in Bandar Sunway. This club is popular with the Chinese middle class executives and local college students. Most people go there in groups; again the guys have to pay - or rather the guys volunteer to pay. You can also find some "Ah Peks" there but not many. The typical age group for this bar is between 18 and late 30s.

Waikiki Bar - Located near Kelab Shabas in Petaling Jaya. This is also an old faithful - more than 15 years old. It used to open until wee hours in the morning; but due to constrains by the authorities, it now shuts at 3am, just like everywhere else. Most of the patrons are Indian executives and Indian wanna be executives (working class) - "Hello Macha". Most customers are regulars. The Chinese girls who come here are those who have preference for Indian guys. The Indian girls come here to look for boyfriends and husbands. you can also meet some airline stewardesses - but these are not much of a big deal these days. The music is great anyway. The age group of customers here are between the ages of 30 to 50.

RP Entertainment Centre - This is located at Hyatt Regency Saujana, Subang. This place was hot about 6 years ago. Popular with middle class Chinese and Malay executives, and businessmen. Airline stewardesses and Malay working class girls hang out here looking for sugar daddies. The age group of patrons here are between the ages of 30 to mid 50s.

So guys, there you go - the top 10. For the shy guys, head for these places, check out the scene, enjoy yourselves and keep us updated. For the "Buayas" and experts out there, please recommend to us the good new places you've been so the other readers can enjoy Klang Valley's vibrant nightlife as well.
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Thursday, August 9, 2007

The Wrong Sex

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This is a picture of an "Ah Kua" at Lorong Haji Taib Kuala Lumpur.

Ah Kua or Ah Qua, is the Hokkien term for transvestite.

Locally they are called by many other names:

Pondan - an effeminate male; increasingly being used by the Malaysian - media to refer also to non-effeminate male homosexuals.

Bapok- derogatory word for an effeminate male.

Mak nyah - Transwoman. "Mak" is a colloquial contraction of "emak", meaning "mother". The term "mak nyah" was coined by the Malaysian male transsexual community (in 1987 when they tried to set up a society but was denied by the Malaysian Registrar of Societies) as a preferred substitute for "pondan" or "bapok" which generally refers to men who are effeminate homosexual (and cisgender) males.

Khunsa - an Arabic-derived term for 'hermaphrodite' (intersex people) used by the Islamic Religious Department in Malaysia which permits such an individual to undergo medical treatment to convert to one or the other sex. Also formerly used as a term for lesbians.

What is the life of an "Ah Kua" like ?

Read this article about the Third Sex, by
beth:

At a boutique in one of KL's bustling shopping malls, the salesgirls are chatting away amicably with each other. When a customer walks in, they stop their banter and attend to the newcomer with genuine interest and warmth. The atmosphere is relaxed and friendly. But under this surface of this seeming normalcy something is amiss. The salesgirls are not, in fact girls; they are transsexuals. Born with male genitals , they are in every other respect female. They think, behave and relate to others just like women.

If women have come a long way, so have transsexuals. There was a time, in the 70s and 80s, when transsexuals were nocturnal creatures who appeared only after the street lights came on, in dark alleys notorious for prostitutes and other nefarious activities. Most of them were sex workers, and being rejects of society, often indulge in drugs and petty crime as well. Today, the sex workers still haunt certain areas in the city, but transsexuals have become more visible in diurnal life as well. They are taking up jobs in shops, restaurants, beauty parlors, entertainment and even professions such as journalism and, to a lesser degree, in the more conservative domains of accountancy, medicine and engineering.

"I think society has seen transsexuals doing good things," says Regina, an attractive transsexual who sings and takes on MC (master of ceremonies) assignments. "There are a lot of nice people in this world. In my case, I have a strong sense of humor which helps. When people give me a hard time, i keep quite and don’t say anything."

Another transsexual, a prominent fashion and beauty writer, agrees society is relenting. "When I first started in journalism about 10 years a go, I used to get depressed all the time," says the soft-spoken, delicate looking journalist. "One day, my editor called me in and told me its not who I am but how well I do my job that matters. Since then, I've felt much better."

Transsexuals tend to be creative and perform well in jobs that use this talent. And because they have a burning desire to be women, they are particularly interested in women's fashion and beauty, giving them an edge in this industry. A boutique manager who has hired transsexuals says, "They provide really good customer service because they love fashion. They excellent at giving advice on what looks good on a customer, and can even suggest what accessories the customer should buy to complete the look."

The truth is, those who have contact with any of the 30,000 or so transsexuals in the country and get to know them tend to be more sympathetic. The problem is, not many people have this opportunity. As Regina puts it, "Society hasn't had the chance to get close to transsexuals. Either we're too flamboyant or too 'fast' for them." She adds many people still associate transsexuals with sex workers because, for many years, that was the only occupation open to them. "Its unfair for people to go to places like Lorong Haji Taib (where many transsexuals sex workers live and operate) and assume we're all like that."

Unfortunately, although transsexuals are gradually being assimilated into mainstream society, many are still trapped within the sordid confines of prostitution, drugs, gangsterism and clashes with the police. Its not a pretty scene, and no one would want to live in such squalid conditions. But for may transsexuals, there is little or no choice. Treated like outcasts by their own families, they find solace int he company of others like them and begin a journey of isolation from the orthodox notions of "normal" life.


.: Whose choice is it, anyway? :.
The view that transsexuals choose to be the way they are is still prevalent, and creates a barrier that shunts off transsexuals and their problems. Leena Gosh, a lawyer who provides legal counseling to transsexuals sex workers, continuously comes up against this wall. "Even my lawyer friends say, 'Why do you want to involve yourself with them? Its their choice to be sex workers.'But they have bills to pay, just like anyone else, "she says. "Also , if they want to change their appearance, their jobs probably wouldn't be able to pay for it, so they have to revert to something that brings them money." In fact job discrimination is something transsexuals continue to face, despite pockets of industries becoming more open minded. Pat, a salesgirl at a boutique, says she has been rejected by potential employers twice before simply because of her gender anomaly. "It's very hard for me to get a job because of the way I am. Once, my company tried to transfer me to an outlet in another departmental store but the manager there said he couldn't accept me. I was so upset, I broke down and cried. But it didn't help."

As significant as it is, getting a good job is just the tip of an iceberg of problems transsexuals face. Perhaps the most stressful demand comes from within themselves. And it begins when they first realised they are different, often at a young age of six or seven. "I'm never at peace with myself," says Pat, whose calm demeanour is deceptive. "I don't want to be like this. I was born like a boy, I don't know why I have this feeling. I try to remove it but i just can't."

Many theories have been put forward to explain transsexualism, but the scientific community has yet to come up with a definitive cause. In the 70s, it was suggested that "a male gene" existed which could get detached from Y chromosome during the formation of sperm cells. And if a Y chromosome lacking in this gene went into creating a boy, he would have male genitals but not your typical male psyche.


.: Its all in the brain :.
More recently, the explanation has shifted focus to the neurones in the brain. A Canadian psychologist at the University of British Columbia suggested in 1992 transsexualism "is caused by some sort of brain damage incurred by birth. Somehow, wiring in the brain that controls gender gets changed in the birth process." Other's believe the aberrant alignment of neurones may be set during the foetal stage. Whichever is the case, the brain of a transsexual is different. Dr Dick Swaab of the Netherlands Institute for Brain Research, who studied six males transsexuals for over 11 years, reported in 1995 that the part of the brain responsible for sexual behaviour in them matched those of women, rather than men.

All this suggests that transsexualism has a biological, maybe even genetic, cause and is not something that is "put on" for the fun of it. In normal males and females, the sex orientation are all congruent; in transsexuals, they are not. For some time, it was thought a person's sexual orientation could be manipulated. And so transsexuals were given counselling and therapy to set them right. But results of such therapy have by and large not been satisfactory, indicating transsexualism is not purely psychological. Which left two options to help transsexuals - change the wiring of their brains or change their genitals.

So far, no one has claimed to be able to re-wire a brain. But as far back as 1931 a German physician, F.Z. Abraham, made history by conducting the first sex reassignment surgery. In 1971, the feat was repeated in Singapore by Professor S.S. Ratnam, who was at the time at the National University Hospital. He had been visited by an “attractive female “ patient who shocked him by disclosing her true sex and begged him to transform her into a women. Although hesitant, Prof Ratnam eventually relented. As part of his research, he would spent hours in front of a mirror, naked, looking at his genitals to see how they could be removed with minimal trauma to the rest of the body.


.: Cutting across the gender border :.
The surgery involved removing his patients penis and testes and using the erogenous tissue in the genital area to create the walls of vagina. To prevent the vagina from “healing” and thus closing up, the patient had to insert a mould in the opening. The operation was so successful that between 1971 and 1991, as many as 500 transsexuals went under the knife Prof Ratnam had pioneered.

According to Dr Vincent Goh, another surgeon who later performed the surgery in Singapore, the patients including “lawyers, engineers, journalists, businesswomen, factory workers, models and masseuses”.

Because the operation is irreversible, it became imperative to ensure those who undergo it are really transsexuals as opposed to being a homosexual with psychological problems. The international medical fraternity thus came out with guidelines on the type of counselling is also given as some transsexuals who have had the operation find it difficult to cope with the changes. In general, however, transsexuals revel in their new gender status. According to a recently concluded study by Dr The Yik Koon, a sociologist and criminologist at the University Utara Malaysia, 15 out of 17 Malaysian transsexuals who have had the operation say they are happier now.

In Malaysia, the operation became available in 1974. It was first performed by Dr G.S.W. Geh at the University Hospital, However, the freedom for Malaysian transsexuals to change their sex was short-lived. Following the fatwa(Islamic religious ruling), sex change operations were banned in the country on February 24, 1983. Ever since those who desperately want the surgery tend to go either to Singapore or Bangkok. In Singapore, the operation costs S$15,000 (RM33,000). It’s much cheaper in Bangkok, but there is a risk of being butchered. “Two of my friends have had the operation in Bangkok,” said the journalist.” But one of them couldn’t pee at all afterwards. And the other friend, whenever she urinates everything goes everywhere like a fountain!”


.: Victorian morals revisited :.
The ban on the sex operation was, in fact, the beginning of a gradual shifting public attitude towards transsexuals. With growing awareness, and fear, of HIV and AIDS came a sudden return to Victorian morality globally. In Malaysia, the backlash hit high-risk groups particularly hard – intravenous drug users, homosexual men, prostitutes and transsexuals.

The Federal Territory Transvestite Association, which had been set up in 1987 to help transsexuals improve their socioeconomic status, became defunct three years later. It never managed to be registered with Registrar of Societies. “The objective was to give vocational training to the community, “says Khartini Slamah, who was secretary of the association. “The association had the blessing of the Ministry of Welfare and they would give us grants to help transsexuals set up their own business. The problem was, there was no proper guidance. So the transsexuals had the money, but not the knowledge, to run a business.

In all, the Welfare Department helped transsexuals set up about 20 projects in 1980s, disbursing about RM40,000 towards this end. Among the shops that were set up were a hairdressing salon and a tailoring unit on the ground floor of the Malaysian Cancer Society. But both ventures failed due to lack of commercial savvy, and customers.

Despite the demise of the FT Transvestite Association and its training programme, transsexuals can still approach the Welfare Department for financial aid. According to N.Mailpatanam, Director of the Social Welfare Department of Wilayah Persekutuan, a Public Assistant Scheme available to the needy – at a recently revised rate of RM250 per month for families, and for RM100 a month for the elderly, who lived below the poverty line of RM500 a month. And the scheme is open to transsexuals and others,” says Mailpatanam. “But giving public assistance is not the only way of helping them. We’d prefer to help them become financially independent. So we may give them a grant to set up their own business, or we may refer them to others who might be able to help. It’s the interest of anyone who is able-bodied to support himself.”

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What do you guys think ? Men become Ah Kuas because of nature (they were born like that) or because nurture (their environment - exposed to the wrong influence) ? Post your opinions here.

Tuesday, August 7, 2007

Steve Jobs' Classic 2005 Speech To Graduates

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This is one of the best advice I've had in my life. Reading what Steve Jobs said made me really sit up and think about doing something important and meaningful with my life. Read this and be inspired for years to come.

Drawing from some of the most pivotal points in his life, Steve Jobs, chief executive officer and co-founder of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, urged graduates to pursue their dreams and see the opportunities in life's setbacks—including death itself—at the university's 114th Commencement on 14th June 2005.

I post Steve Job's speech verbatim here:

I am honored to be with you today at your commencement from one of the finest universities in the world. I never graduated from college. Truth be told, this is the closest I've ever gotten to a college graduation. Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories.

The first story is about connecting the dots.

I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months, but then stayed around as a drop-in for another 18 months or so before I really quit. So why did I drop out?

It started before I was born. My biological mother was a young, unwed college graduate student, and she decided to put me up for adoption. She felt very strongly that I should be adopted by college graduates, so everything was all set for me to be adopted at birth by a lawyer and his wife. Except that when I popped out they decided at the last minute that they really wanted a girl. So my parents, who were on a waiting list, got a call in the middle of the night asking: "We have an unexpected baby boy; do you want him?" They said: "Of course." My biological mother later found out that my mother had never graduated from college and that my father had never graduated from high school. She refused to sign the final adoption papers. She only relented a few months later when my parents promised that I would someday go to college.

And 17 years later I did go to college. But I naively chose a college that was almost as expensive as Stanford, and all of my working-class parents' savings were being spent on my college tuition. After six months, I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life and no idea how college was going to help me figure it out. And here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out OK. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back it was one of the best decisions I ever made. The minute I dropped out I could stop taking the required classes that didn't interest me, and begin dropping in on the ones that looked interesting.

It wasn't all romantic. I didn't have a dorm room, so I slept on the floor in friends' rooms, I returned coke bottles for the 5¢ deposits to buy food with, and I would walk the 7 miles across town every Sunday night to get one good meal a week at the Hare Krishna temple. I loved it. And much of what I stumbled into by following my curiosity and intuition turned out to be priceless later on. Let me give you one example:

Reed College at that time offered perhaps the best calligraphy instruction in the country. Throughout the campus every poster, every label on every drawer, was beautifully hand calligraphed. Because I had dropped out and didn't have to take the normal classes, I decided to take a calligraphy class to learn how to do this. I learned about serif and san serif typefaces, about varying the amount of space between different letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. It was beautiful, historical, artistically subtle in a way that science can't capture, and I found it fascinating.

None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh computer, it all came back to me. And we designed it all into the Mac. It was the first computer with beautiful typography. If I had never dropped in on that single course in college, the Mac would have never had multiple typefaces or proportionally spaced fonts. And since Windows just copied the Mac, its likely that no personal computer would have them. If I had never dropped out, I would have never dropped in on this calligraphy class, and personal computers might not have the wonderful typography that they do. Of course it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards ten years later.

Again, you can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

My second story is about love and loss.

I was lucky — I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple in my parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple had grown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees. We had just released our finest creation — the Macintosh — a year earlier, and I had just turned 30. And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grew we hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first year or so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me — I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the worlds first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successful animation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I returned to Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don't settle.

My third story is about death.

When I was 17, I read a quote that went something like: "If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right." It made an impression on me, and since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?" And whenever the answer has been "No" for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

About a year ago I was diagnosed with cancer. I had a scan at 7:30 in the morning, and it clearly showed a tumor on my pancreas. I didn't even know what a pancreas was. The doctors told me this was almost certainly a type of cancer that is incurable, and that I should expect to live no longer than three to six months. My doctor advised me to go home and get my affairs in order, which is doctor's code for prepare to die. It means to try to tell your kids everything you thought you'd have the next 10 years to tell them in just a few months. It means to make sure everything is buttoned up so that it will be as easy as possible for your family. It means to say your goodbyes.

I lived with that diagnosis all day. Later that evening I had a biopsy, where they stuck an endoscope down my throat, through my stomach and into my intestines, put a needle into my pancreas and got a few cells from the tumor. I was sedated, but my wife, who was there, told me that when they viewed the cells under a microscope the doctors started crying because it turned out to be a very rare form of pancreatic cancer that is curable with surgery. I had the surgery and I'm fine now.

This was the closest I've been to facing death, and I hope its the closest I get for a few more decades. Having lived through it, I can now say this to you with a bit more certainty than when death was a useful but purely intellectual concept:

No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don't want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life's change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.

Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

When I was young, there was an amazing publication called The Whole Earth Catalog, which was one of the bibles of my generation. It was created by a fellow named Stewart Brand not far from here in Menlo Park, and he brought it to life with his poetic touch. This was in the late 1960's, before personal computers and desktop publishing, so it was all made with typewriters, scissors, and polaroid cameras. It was sort of like Google in paperback form, 35 years before Google came along: it was idealistic, and overflowing with neat tools and great notions.

Stewart and his team put out several issues of The Whole Earth Catalog, and then when it had run its course, they put out a final issue. It was the mid-1970s, and I was your age. On the back cover of their final issue was a photograph of an early morning country road, the kind you might find yourself hitchhiking on if you were so adventurous. Beneath it were the words: "Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish." It was their farewell message as they signed off. Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish. And I have always wished that for myself. And now, as you graduate to begin anew, I wish that for you.

Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish.

Thank you all very much.



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