Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Why I Won't Buy An iPad

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This is a podcast by Cory Doctorow published in Boing Boing on why he wouldn't buy a iPad and why he think we shouldn't either.

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Sunday, April 25, 2010

Malaysian Men Buying Lingerie Online

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The above picture shows a man trying on a bra he bought online. According to a report in the Star, more Malaysian men are purchasing exotic and sexy ladies undergarments online.

Apparently men prefer to purchase such items online because they are embarrassed to buy such clothing for their wives or girlfriends in normal shops.

The report says that some of the purchasers are even from places like Felda settlements, because they have no easy access to regular shops selling such clothing.

An online lingerie shop owner says another reason people buy online is because of the variety of merchandise - there are many designs to choose from, such as satin slips, corsets, two-piece sets and even those that come with whips. Some of these designs are not readily available in Malaysian shops, especially the more exotic ones.

Lingerie corsets are apparently one of the hottest-selling lingerie and customers are demanding for more corset designs, such as those with lace and leather.

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Friday, April 16, 2010

Should You Get An iPad Now ?

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According to an article in the Seattle Times, Apple iPad is not really worth its hype. The iPad is basically just an extra-large iPod Touch.

Apparently software and media companies are especially excited about the iPad's debut as they are hoping to sell millions of apps and subscriptions at higher prices than they could for the iPhone.

The newspaper advises against impulse purchase of the iPad because it expects the price to eventually fall. As the price of the iPad settles so will its apps market.

If you wait a little, Apple's competitors will release similar devices that may have better features at competitive prices. Also, wait and see if the iPad will be a really useful device that will replace current PCs and laptops.

Anyway, Apple says its delaying the international release of the iPad by a month because of high demand. Yes, the iPad was supposed to be available in Malaysia sometime late March, but now, Malaysians will have to wait until the end of May. I think its just a marketing gimmick by Apple to get people all hyped up about the iPad.

So, don't be impatient. Getting an iPad is not the most important thing in the world. The iPad can wait because tablet computers it will eventually get better and cheaper...

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Thursday, April 15, 2010

What The Hell Is Syabu ?

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Top: pic from The Sun on customs discovering syabu in luggage in KLIA Left: a retail packet of syabu

While many of us know that shabu-shabu is Japanese steamboat, not many know about the drug called shabu or syabu.

We read a lot in the newspapers about police making syabu raids, drug addicts getting jailed and rotan for syabu possession. We also read about Iranian syndicates smuggling syabu into the country.

Having possession and trafficking of syabu is illegal in Malaysia under the Dangerous Drugs Act 1952. If you're an addict, possessing just about 61.8g (3 tablespoons) of syabu can get you sentenced to 15 years jail and 10 strokes of the rotan. If you're a trafficker, you could be sentenced to death by hanging.

So what the hell is this syabu thing ?

Syabu (also called "ice", "speed", "crystal", "glass", "meth" or "blue diamond" on the streets) is the colloquial name for the psycho-stimulant drug called Amphetamine. Amphetamine is known to increase energy and attention while decreasing appetite and fatigue. Apparently during World War II and the Viet Nam War, amphetamines were widely used as stimulants to keep the soldiers fighting, increasing their alertness and energy while going on without sleep and much food. It gave them false confidence making them bold, daring and feeling invincible.

Amphetamine is related to drugs such as methamphetamine and dextroamphetamine.

Long term use of of syabu causes brain damage, depression and other psychosomatic illnesses.

Today, it is generally taken as a recreational drug as it enables one to party all night. It is also believed to be widely used by those working in the fringes of society: prostitutes, GROs, robbers and gangsters, as it makes them hyperactive all night long, bold and daring to commit acts which they would normally be socially restrained to do. It is also apparently common for taxi drivers, bus drivers, night club bouncers and mat rempits to be on syabu. Women addicts take syabu to keep slim as it prevents them from getting hungry.

Syabu is not only addictive, it eventually impairs your performance. Experts say, after taking syabu for a year, you become dependent on syabu and cannot perform normally without it.

If you want to know more, read these stories about Types of Party Drugs and Party Drugs That Kill.

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Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Bukit Gasing Forest Park

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Bukit Gasing forest park is one of the Klang Valley's best nature walks. It is located in Secion 5 Petaling Jaya. Visitors can get to Bukit Gasing through Jalan Tanjung (Jalan Section 5/4).

Although there is no entry fee and no parking fee there are also no toilet facilities available.

There are a few covered shelters along trails while drink and snack sellers station themselves alongside the entrance road during weekends.

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The History Of Money In Malaysia

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This is an informative article about the history of money in Malaysia written by 14 year old Devan Tisdale, of Heidelberg, Germany which was published in the NST:

Throughout history, money has been the pulse of civilisations. The earliest form of money was not the paper bills and coins that we know today. They were possessions and objects such as cows or pottery. These were traded for anything the owner might have been in need of.

Unfortunately, unless you were a shrewd negotiator, this method wouldn’t favour you. Also, changes in the value of certain objects, too, could not work in your favour. Soon, as a result, coin-based currency began to take hold.

Among the earliest civilisations to use coins were the Greeks and the Chinese.

The Romans caught on later, and soon the practice spread around the globe, although it did not completely replace the bargaining method or barter trade.

Early coins were usually made of a mix of metals, and, later, the coins were made of gold or silver.

Forgery became a problem but this was solved when mints made coins with ridged edges which were hard to duplicate.
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But then, changes in the weight and purity of coins caused inflation and it became harder to control.

The ancient banking systems in Europe collapsed after the fall of Rome and did not resume until the Crusades.

The Chinese became the first to develop paper money due to a severe shortage of copper (circa A.D. 815). The idea behind paper money is that each bill would be backed by its value in gold or silver by the government.

China was forced to abandon paper money around A.D. 1455 due to severe inflation but started again a while later.

Other governments had similar problems when they adopted paper money, but eventually the system settled down to become what we are familiar with today.

Malaysian Money

The history of Malaysia’s money is even more interesting. Originally, tin cubes of varying size were the currency of Malaysia. Over time they were made in many different styles.

Did you know that Malaysia once had coins shaped like animals such as crocodiles and elephants?

Another distinct style of the period is the “coin tree”. This was a metal rod with “branches” of coins. When needed, these coins could be broken off and used. The spare metal was then turned into more coins.


The first actual money to arrive in Malaysia was in the form of bronze coins brought by Chinese merchants. Eventually the Malacca Sultanate began to issue their own currency of gold, silver, and bronze coins.

This in turn was replaced, as the colonial powers came to Malaysia, with each one introducing its own currency.

Portuguese, Dutch, and English money have been the currency of Malaysia at one time or another.

However, the first paper money was once again from the Chinese banks that had opened branches in Malaysia.

During the rule of the Government of the Straits Settlements, the main forms of money were the Spanish Dollar, the Dutch Doit, and the Singapore merchant tokens.

Eventually, after the departure of the British, Malaysia began circulating what we know now as the Malaysian Ringgit (it was originally called the Malaysian dollar and represented with the sign M$). Malaysia has even issued its own gold bullion called the Kijang Emas after the barking deer.

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Having read the above article, you might be interested to watch some videos on how money is created today and how it affects your life.

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Sunday, April 11, 2010

Good Food, Fat Malaysians.

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According to a recent article in the Star, Malaysians are getting obese because we eat round the clock.

Four years ago the National Health and Morbidity Survey revealed that 2 out of every 5 adults or 43%, were either overweight or obese.


Malaysian food has also loads of calories.

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Friday, April 9, 2010

Penang Adult Entertainment Retailer Uses Facebook To Market Products

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A retailer of adult entertainment, including toys, DVDs and stimulants in Penang, has gone hi tech and uses Facebook to market its products.

The retailer has apparently distributed flyers written in Chinese listing its Face­book site to residents of a housing estate.

Police are trying to locate the retailer based on the details in the flyers. If caught, the seller could be charged under Section 292 of the Penal Code for distributing offensive items or under Section 233 of the Communications and Multimedia Act 1998 for selling obscene materials online.
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Thursday, April 8, 2010

Freelance Batin Masseuse Earns RM4,000 Per Month

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According to news reports a 43 year old masseuse called Lia have given batin massages to over 1,000 men including local celebrities and VIPs.

Lia said she first started working at a massage parlour, introduced by a friend, in Pandan Jaya, Ampang 12 years ago earning RM2,000 per month.

Initially she only did traditional massage but was offered extra commission to perform the batin massage
where she earned an extra RM50 over the RM60 for the massage. Lia keeps RM20 of the RM50 and paid RM30 to the massage parlour management.

Lia, now “freelancing” at hotels and flats, earns about RM4,000 per month performing the batin massage for men.

Apparently her husband doesn't know about her real job as a batin masseuse and thought that she was a midwife giving massage to new mothers.

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Friday, April 2, 2010

Warning: Open Windows First When You Enter Your Car

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Do not turn on A/C immediately as soon as you enter the car.


Please open the windows after you enter your car and do not turn on the air-conditioning immediately. According to a research done, the car dashboard, sofa, air freshener emits Benzene, a Cancer causing toxin (carcinogen- take note of the heated plastic smell in your car). In addition to causing cancer, it poisons your bones, causes anemia, and reduces white blood cells. Prolonged exposure will cause Leukemia, increasing the risk of cancer may also cause miscarriage.



Acceptable Benzene level indoors is 50 mg per sq. ft. A car parked indoors with the windows closed will contain 400-800 mg of Benzene. If parked outdoors under the sun at a temperature above 60 degrees F, the Benzene level goes up to 2000-4000 mg, 40 times the acceptable level; the people inside the car will inevitably inhale an excess amount of the toxins.


It is recommended that you open the windows and door to give time for the interior to air out before you enter. Benzene is a toxin that affects your kidney and liver, and is very difficult for your body to expel this toxic stuff.

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Acrobatic Bangladeshi Labourers

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Watch this video. Its amazing how that Bangladeshi labourer was able to do that. I suppose he does it everyday. If you were born into the wrong family in a wrong country, you could be doing that too, or even worse.

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Malaysia Among Top 10 Affordable Destinations

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Malaysia is among the top 10 most affordable destinations in the world where Europeans can go a long way with their Euros for a memorable holiday, according to the German-language Yahoo! Travel Magazine.

It listed Malaysia along with Thailand, India, Sri Lanka, Mexico, Croatia, Bulgaria, Turkey, Egypt and Hungary.

Malaysia's Langkawi island was praised for its long, white sandy beaches, palm trees and fascinating coral reefs.

Nature lovers too get "full worth" for their money with the abundance of flora and fauna.

"Your holiday budget is spared: life here is exceptionally affordable!" said the Yahoo! site.

Thailand was cited for its exquisite cities, rich culture and pristine beaches making it a dream holiday destination for many, from backpackers to island tourists.

Thailand's popularity is also due to the fact that it is a traditionally affordable destination and airfares have declined dramatically to around 300 Euros from Germany for some lucky travellers.

"The Euro is very strong compared with the Thai baht, which makes it attractive for people from the Euro zone to travel to Thailand where they get a long stretch with the Euro," said Thomas Wischnewski, an Asian specialist travel and tour operator.

Source: Bernama

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Saturday, March 27, 2010

Earth Hour Malaysia 2010

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Turn off your lights tonight for 1 hour from 8.30pm to 9.30pm and save the planet.

If you are single, go to the mamak for 1 hour. If you're married, make use of that time to produce another Malaysian. If you have a bf or gf, you know what to do... :)

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Thursday, March 25, 2010

TM's New High Speed Broadband Service

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Review: Telekom Malaysia's (TM) latest super high speed broadband (HSBB) 5Mbps, 10Mbps or 20Mbps connection to the Internet.

Telekom Malaysia's UniFi comes in 3 packages.

Residential packages
  • 5Mbps (RM149 per month), 10Mbps (RM199 per month) or 20Mbps (RM249 per month)
  • Subscribers must sign a contract for 2 years.
  • Each package comes with a Dect (Digital Enhanced Cordless Telecommunications) phone, a set-top box for IPTV (Internet Protocol Television), Streamyxzone ID for wireless web access, and a 2GB e-mail box.
  • Monthly cap on downloads - the 5Mbps package has a 60GB cap, the 10Mbps package has a 90GB cap, and the 20Mbps package has a 120GB cap. *
Business packages will cost most more but there will be no download caps.

UniFi is currently available in Shah Alam, Subang Jaya, Taman Tun Dr Ismail and Bangsar.

The UniFi coverage areas planned for 2010 are:

Bangsar- Residential / Business- Q1 2010
Shah Alam - Residential / Business -Q1 2010
Subang- Residential / Business- Q1 2010
Taman Tun Dr. Ismail - Residential / Business- Q1 2010
Bayan Baru-Business-Q3 2010
Bukit Kemuning-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Bukit Tengah-Business-Q3 2010
Cyberjaya-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Damansara-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Duta-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Kepong -Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Keramat-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
KL International Airport-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Kulim HighTech park-Business-Q3 2010
Lapangan Terbang Subang -Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Melawati-Residential / Business -Q3 2010
Menara TM-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Midah-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Permas-Business-Q3 2010
Petaling Jaya-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Puchong-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Putrajaya-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Seberang Jaya-Business-Q3 2010
Senai-Business-Q3 2010 Skudai-Business-Q3 2010
Sungai Buloh-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Sungai Long-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Telok Panglima Garang –Business-Q3 2010
Wangsa Maju-Residential / Business-Q3 2010
Batu-Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Bukit Bintang -Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Cheras -Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Jln Kebun-Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Kelana Jaya -Residential / Business-Q4 2010
KL Central -Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Klang-Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Kuala Pauh -Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Pekeliling-Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Saga-Residential / Business-Q4 2010
San Peng -Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Selayang-Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Sentul -Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Serdang -Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Setapak -Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Sg. Renggam-Residential / Business-Q4 2010
Taman Petaling -Residential / Business-Q4 2010

More areas nationwide will be covered over the next 2 years.

*LATEST: TM suspends UniFi download cap. So, TM will not impose any download caps for now.

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Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Standard Chartered Bank Warning

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This is a warning letter by Standard Chartered Bank warning against accepting free key chains.

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Monday, March 22, 2010

Top 10 Pick Up Joints In Singapore

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Although almost all clubs and bars in Singapore are potentially pick up joints, there following places appear to be relatively more popular for pick ups.

Zouk
- Located at Jiak Kim Street. Launched in the early 90s, this 20 year old club has become one of the premier clubs in this region. Having been host to many international singers, groups and DJs, Zouk is presumably the best club in South East Asia. It is clean, has a classy crowd and plays the best of music. Don't go there too early. It is advisable that you go in at about 12 midnight when the action starts.

Zouk's demographics include locals, expats and tourists who go there just to have a great time apart from wanting to play the mating game. While Zouk's is a little bit trancy but Velvet always pulls in the crowds and a guaranteed good Saturday night in Singapore. It is a good place to pick up college students and young professional local women out to make an impression.

Attica - This well known expat pick up joint located at River Valley Road, Clarke Quay. If you're an expat, this is the place to be. It doesn't really matter how you look like or what job you do. The local girls here are just gasping for a expat "boyfriend" and will be grinding up against you in no time. You don't even have to fake it till you make it, you just have to be your Caucasian self. It is known that even grandpas as old as Colonel Sanders have picked up women here. Of course, with the high concentration of Caucasian expat males here, competition is keen. Your chances of getting laid are much improved if you throw some cash around. As a rule of thumb, get in about 12am.

BQ Bar at 39 Boat Quay is another expat pick up classic. This is where most British expat bankers hang out after work. Most of the women here are either 30+ professionals looking for a Caucasian boyfriend to marry, or working class girls looking for a good time. It is very much easier to pick up a woman here if you hold a good professional job in Singapore, as some of the women here can be quite discerning about the quality of Caucasians they associate with. If you're just a tourist, just tell 'em that you're a banker and wing it. Size does matter - size of your wallet, that is.

Bar Le Noir at The Cannery in River Valley Road seem to attract hordes of expatriates. They don't seem to mind being trawled by local girls gasping for free drinks. Neither do they mind being overcharged for those drinks as long as they can take one of these giggly girls home later. So remember, it really doesn't matter if you don't look like Brad Pitt as long as you can spend money like him. If you're willing to "spread some green just to be seen", this is a fantastic place. The return on your investment can be overwhelmingly high. However, beware of high class call girls on the prowl. After buying a few round of drinks, make sure you go back holding a bird, instead of holding just your dick.These call girls are very savvy and can be ruthless when it comes to business. Remember, they are not looking for a Caucasian "boyfriend", they are working.

Brix, located at the basement of the Grand Hyatt Regency, Scotts Road, is also a well known pick up bar. This place is pretty upmarket frequented by top local executives, businessmen, Caucasian expats, and occasionally "Princesses from Geylang". The patrons here are typically between the ages of 30 to 50.

While Orchard Towers' notorious Ipanema World Music Bar is a somewhat budgeted place in comparison to the others mentioned above, it is not less attractive to hot blooded males. Located in Orchard Road, it attracts both locals and foreigners alike. Although it is possible to meet local Singaporean women here, Ipanema has, in recent years, become a bar to pick up Filipina maids and freelance prostitutes from South East Asia. It has become a popular place where potential clients meet freelance prostitutes primarily from Vietnam, Thailand, Philippines, Indonesia, Ukraine and mainland China. On Sundays, Ipanema, like the other bars in Orchard Towers, open at 12pm for Tea-dances catering to foreign maids and workers as this is their day off. So, if this is your cup of tea, Ipanema is your place. Don't forget to haggle - 50% off the opening price is the norm. Normal prices are between S$150 to S$200 for all nighters. Hourly rates are at approximately S$100 per hour.

Harry's Bar is another bar at Orchard Towers. This is not somewhere to take the wife or girlfriend. Although this bar is the cousin of the famous Harry's Bar at Boat Quay; the previous hang out of renegade Barings Bank forex broker Nick Leeson, its patrons are distinctly different because of it location. While listening to jazz, a cute Singaporean "expat husband hunter" or gold digger could snuggle up to you while sipping her cocktail hoping that you are "the one". What better chance is there to take advantage of the situation ?. Believe me, women like this do buy into empty promises. If you're not an expat, you should just pretend that you are. Telling women here you're a "budget tourist" and living on social security in your home country, is not very appealing. Yes, of course its all about economics, what were you thinking ?

Zirca Mega Club (formerly Ministry of Sound) in The Cannery, River Valley Road, Clarke Quay has 3 clubs housed under one roof - a dance club, a hip hop club and a disco. There are a wide a variety of women between the ages of 18 - 40. It host a mixed crowd of locals, expats and tourists. Go on Wednesday where women get in free. Here is when you can meet all the freeloading and financially desperate local women. These women come in groups so be prepared to buy all her friends rounds of drinks as well. A few rounds of drinks and some boasting can take you a long way. But beware; the ones sitting alone at the bar and are on familiar terms with the bartenders are possibly prostitutes. Nonetheless, I was told that S$200 can get you a nice piece of ass.

St James Power Station at Harbourfront has 9 different outlets featuring a wide array of live entertainment and music styles. For a successful pick up, I suggest you try Peppermint Park after working hours, and Movida later at night. Movida is a salsa bar playing Latin music. If you can do the salsa, you'd honestly become a babe magnet in this place. Movida is packed over the weekend so its better to get in early.

Butter Factory at 1 Fullerton Road is a hip hop hangout. Although it attracts some tourists, the crowd demographics suggest mostly local youngsters. As the crowd bobs around on the dance floor look more flash than cash, there are loads of opportunities for a generous "gwai lo" (Cantonese terms for Caucasian). But be cautious not to attempt picking up a woman who is in a group of male friends. These young Singaporean men (boys) do not take it too kindly for a foreigner making moves on their women, and they wont hesitate to point that out in no uncertain terms. It is best that you bring a buddy along and attempt to chat up groups of single girls. During weekends, be prepared to be squeezed, as the placed can be packed like a tin of tuna.

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Female Insurance Agents Recruited To Party And Have Sex With Potential Clients

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According to Guang Ming Daily, female insurance agents are recruited by some insurance agencies in Johor to party and have sex with potential clients. The female insurance agents were required to party with prospects at nightclubs and karaoke joints to secure sales.

The female agents were recruited among those desperate for money, including middle aged divorcees and single mothers.

Apparently, agents who failed achieve sales targets must parade themselves in lingerie or pay fines of between RM1,000 and RM3,000 to their company.

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Sunday, March 21, 2010

The College Dating Scene

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By TAN EE LOO

Most students get their first taste of freedom at college, but a lack of maturity can have negative consequences. Couples and counsellors share their views about relationship trends among young adults.

IT started off with a peck on the cheek. Then came the kissing and hugging.

And before they knew it, their tops were off. But half way through the process, Mark* decided to pull away.

“I did not want to go all the way because I was worried that my girlfriend might get pregnant,” says Mark while recalling his first intimate contact with his girlfriend Julie*.

According to Mark, 21, Julie is his 10th girlfriend.

Before he asked Julie out, he was actually seeing a girl he met at another college. But things didn’t work out for the young couple, so Mark decided to break up with the girl and started going out with Julie.

“I don’t take pride in the number of relationships I’ve had. In fact, I feel bad when I think about it because people see me as a playboy,” he says.

College is where most young adults get their first taste of freedom, be it through dating, drinking or driving.

After all, who can blame them for wanting to explore new and exciting boundaries after 11 years of schooling in a simple and protective environment?

Depending on how an individual defines ‘puppy love’ and ‘relationship’, some college students claim that they have been in and out of relationships since high school, with or without their parents’ knowledge.

Just ask 20-year-old Alice*, who claims that she has been in more than 10 relationships.

On their anniversary, Alice’s current boyfriend of two years booked a hotel suite at a five-star hotel in Kuala Lumpur to celebrate the occasion, complete with a romantic dinner and gifts.

So... did Alice come home that night after dinner?

“I told my parents that I was going to a friend’s place for a sleep over,” says the college student from Petaling Jaya.

Let’s face it: the forbidden fruit is enticing. Young adults are constantly exposed to sexual imagery.

On television, American drama series like Gossip Girl and 90210 portray steamy relationships and carefree lifestyles of students as the norm. Unsurprisingly, this is a major concern to some parents.

According to the Parents Television Council, a non-partisan education group, Gossip Girl conveys a message that sex is “a tool used to manipulate people”.

There are also plenty of kissing scenes and skimpy clothing which some parents may find it too offensive for their teenaged children’s viewing.

Casual attitude

Some young college couples embark on a relationship with little or no expectation of long-term commitment.

A check by StarEducation with college students, aged between 18 and 23, reveals that their relationships can last as short as two months, and no longer than two years.
LEE: Parents could help their children set priorities and find out if they can really cope with their studies should they choose to be in a relationship

“Their casual attitude is worrying, as many of them do not understand the consequences. They think it’s normal to get in and out of relationships,” says college student services officer Carrie*.

“It is a form of approval and the need to feel wanted. College students are curious about their newfound freedom that often involves new and wider circle of friends,” says a college counsellor of a private institution in Petaling Jaya.

“But they have not understood the meaning and importance of commitment so they tend to follow their heart. They would probably go ‘Oh, I’m feeling good about this. Let’s go out’ in a very casual way to their object of affection. If the girl says yes, then you would feel you are accepted,” she says.

College student Derek*, 20, says hugging and kissing are common and seen as ‘acceptable’ in the college dating scene.

“Couples who claim that they don’t kiss and hug are lying,” says Derek.

Some would engage in pre-marital sex without thinking twice, while others would practise abstinence.

Alice says her boyfriend refused to have sex with her because of his religious beliefs.

“His religion does not encourage him to have pre-marital sex so even though we have spent the night before, we didn’t do it.

“But I wouldn’t want to have sex with him either because I am worried that I might get pregnant,” she says.

Many of the college students cite “unwanted pregnancy” as their primary concern during the interview, when young couples planning to go into a sexual relationship.

It is also found that the college students are not worried about sexually transmitted infections (STI).

Derek says his girlfriend of five months, who is a devout Christian, is completely against the idea of pre-marital sex.

“There have been a couple of times where we both got really turned on but she doesn’t want to do it ... which I respect her for.

“Even if she had said yes, I am not sure if I would have wanted to do it because I have a lot of things that I want to achieve such as setting up my own business after completing my degree.

“Protection is not 100% so an unplanned pregnancy is the last thing I want right now,” he says.

The ‘Cool’ identity

While some college students think it would make them appear ‘cool’ among their peers to have a new boyfriend or girlfriend every month, little do they know that it could actually backfire.

“It could have an opposite effect which may affect their image and reputation, besides causing emotional damage to those they broke up with,” says Sunway University College student services director Lee Siok Ping.
A counsellor says that students’ casual attitude when it comes to dating is worrying, as many of them do not understand the consequences.

Carrie agrees, saying that many get distracted and lose focus on the important things in life.

“They seem to think that the only thing that really matters is the relationship they are in. Some failed their exams, delayed their course of study and even had to resit for exams.

“This is simply because they do not know how to prioritise,” she says.

She adds that some students would engage in pre-marital sex and even abusive relationships, which can trigger destructive behaviours and consequences such as dropouts, abortion, cohabiting, teenage pregnancy and so on.

“They need to understand that there are emotional scars and physical damages. Broken relationships are not easy to mend. Young people may not be able to cope with it effectively.

“Some just stay away and completely stop acknowledging each other. On the other hand, we see extreme cases where they hurt themselves or try to commit suicide because of a failed relationship,” she says.

Student counselling services is a good place to seek objective advice should college students need guidance on relationship issues.

At Sunway, Lee says her counselling unit has received positive response from students.

“Based on last year’s statistics, 21% of students who come to our department to seek counselling services were boy-girl relationship and family issues related.

“Some students choose to walk in while some cases (students) are referred by their lecturers,” she says.

“We believe in a wholesome education experience and want to help them complete their studies succesfully. So when students experience problems, we encourage them to come and talk to our counsellors,” she says.

Carrie agrees, saying that students need to have an appropriate channel to share their problems.

“The college is also responsible for educating the teenagers on respectfulness and abstinence. It’s vital for the college to take on this role and not leave it entirely to the parents.

“However, it can be a tricky situation and difficult for the college to interfere, especially when it’s considered a personal problem.

“Unless they come to us, it can be difficult for us to lend our support,” she says.

What can parents do?

As a parent herself, Lee can understand the dilemma that every parent goes through when it comes to educating their children about relationships and sex.

For Lee, she would buy reading materials related to the topic for her teenaged children to read, and follow up with a discussion.

“Parents can play an effective role in helping their children understand the responsibilities that come with being in a relationship.

“They could help them set priorities by talking to their children and find out if they can really cope with their studies should they choose to be in a relationship,” she says.

She adds that she also sends them for talks or camps on understanding the opposite sex.

Carrie says parents can take on the role of a friend.

“They can offer their opinions and share their own experience without coming across as too harsh or controlling, and you will find children more likely to open up to their parents.

“However, you may find that many Asian parents tend to be very uptight and domineering so much so that their teenage children find it difficult to approach them, and insecure to discuss any matters, let alone relationship problems.

“Many parents feel uncomfortable to talk about relationships and may just leave it to the children to ‘discover’ for themselves, which may yield negative results,” she says.

*Names have been changed.

Source: The Star

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Thursday, March 18, 2010

Golfer Bitten By Crocodile Gets RM43,000 Compensation

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The High Court has ordered A'Famosa Golf Resort Bhd to pay RM43,000 to businessman Hong Kee Siong, 48, who was attacked and bitten by a crocodile at the resort in Malacca.

Hong Kee Siong was attacked by a crocodile and bitten in the leg while playing golf at the A'Famosa Golf Resort in January 2004.

Apparently Hong Kee Siong struggled to free himself from the crocodile which tried to drag him to a pond.

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Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Beware ! Its A Lady Driver !

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Malaysian Crime Prevention Foundation analyst Kamal Affandi Hashim recently revealed, reported the Star, that women drivers are getting more aggressive compared to males. This, he said, is based on the high number of traffic summonses issued and court cases against women.

I think women are generally bad drivers. On many occasions I've seen women drivers reverse out from parking lots without looking behind at oncoming cars. I have also seen women drivers stopping their cars abruptly in the middle of the road causing a collision to happen to the cars trailing behind.

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The Weather Is So Damn Hot !

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According to the Star, the current hot weather is causing even the rivers and canals in the northern part of Peninsular Malaysia and Sabah to dry up.

The Malaysian Meteorological Department said this hot spell will continue until May as it is made worse by the El Nino phenomenon.

The Drainage and Irrigation Department also reported that 3 dams are at the critical levels - apparently the Bekok dam in Johor is almost dried up, having only 0.96% of water storage left. The other 2 are Johor’s Machap dam and the Klang's Gates dam.

The department also warns of several rivers in Perlis, Johor, Kedah and Pahang having low levels of water.

Kudat, Sandakan and Tawau in Sabah, are now under drought alert. Apparently water rationing have already started in some areas in Negri Sembilan and Johor.

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Friday, March 12, 2010

MATTA Fair 2010 - Top 10 Best Discounts

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These are the top 10 best deals at the MATTA fair 2010.

The MATTA Fair 2010 starts today. It will be held at Putra World Trade Center (PWTC) Kuala Lumpur from 12th-14th of March 2010. Don't miss this bi yearly event.

This March MATTA travel fair will include national tourism organisations from 15 countries and more than 170 exhibitors.

The MATTA fair this time round includes a Buyers’ Contest with travel vouchers worth RM5,000 to be won for those buying domestic packages worth more than RM200, and a grand prize of RM20,000 worth of travel vouchers for those buying travel packages worth more than RM500.

Date: 12 March 2010 - 14 March 2010
Time: 10:00am - 9:00pm
Location: Putra World Trade Centre, Malaysia
Venue:Tun Razak Hall 1, 2, 3 & Pelantaran Putra

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Thursday, March 11, 2010

New Zealander Buys 2 Ghosts For RM6,644.25 Online

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A male New Zealander from Christchurch bought 2 captured ghosts stored in glass vials from TradeMe, a New Zealand auction website, for $NZ2,830 (RM6,644.25) on Monday night.

Christchurch woman, Avie Woodbury, an exorcist, who listed the ghosts for sale said they had been captured from her house.

The seller said one one the spirits is an old man named Les Graham, who lived in her house during the 1920s, and the other is a powerful and disruptive little girl, which was captured during a ouija board session. The ghosts have allegedly been kept inactive by putting them in holy water which dulls the ghosts' energy.

Apparently all proceeds from the auction will be donated to the SPCA.

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